"Why don’t we talk about..."
She grew up in a Catholic country, in a fairly Catholic family. Masturbation was on the black list of things that should not be talked about - especially women's masturbation.
Nobody told her what masturbation was or how to masturbate. Instead she was told that she might go to hell or bring shame on herself if she did do it.
“Unfortunately” for her holy immaculate soul, she started touching herself in her early years, like kids do, but when caught she was told to never do it, so she began hiding it since then.
Years of touching herself under the blanket of shame, but never fully orgasming. Perhaps it was the shame that was stopping her? Either way something was wrong, in her adult life she was trying to work out why she wasn't having orgasm even when having sexual intercourses with partners.
She’s was told that some women never orgasm and that was it! If that was it she accepted it. It was shameful for her to talk about it, doctors genuinely avoided the conversation and she felt awkward to talk about it with her family or partners, so most of them probably have no idea that they never made her cum (sorry boys). Years later she gave herself the best gift ever, the gift which keeps on giving, her first vibrator! At the age of 22 she has finally experienced her first orgasm. This little toy unlocked something in her body and although it was still not easy to do, she has been able to orgasm since then, including when having an intercourses.
Now she masturbates to release sexual tension, to release stress, to keep up her sex drive, to have a better relationship with her body, to induce sleep, to wake up, to alleviate menstrual tension or to have fun. She found out that masturbation has many more health benefits, for example indirectly prevent disease and build up resistance to infections by increasing the flow of white blood cells and rejuvenating the circulation of hormones, strengthen muscle tone in the pelvic, reducing chances of involuntary urine leakage and uterine prolapse, stimulate endorphin production, allowing better oxygen metabolism and more efficient cell functioning through the body, promote higher level of marital and sexual satisfaction, provide treatment for sexual disfunction and provide sexual outlet for people without partners and serves as a form of outercourse for safer. She wishes someone told her this before she gave up on pleasure and gave up on healthy relationship with her body.
She grew up in a Catholic country, in a fairly Catholic family. Masturbation was on the black list of things that should not be talked about - especially women's masturbation.
Nobody told her what masturbation was or how to masturbate. Instead she was told that she might go to hell or bring shame on herself if she did do it.
“Unfortunately” for her holy immaculate soul, she started touching herself in her early years, like kids do, but when caught she was told to never do it, so she began hiding it since then.
Years of touching herself under the blanket of shame, but never fully orgasming. Perhaps it was the shame that was stopping her? Either way something was wrong, in her adult life she was trying to work out why she wasn't having orgasm even when having sexual intercourses with partners.
She’s was told that some women never orgasm and that was it! If that was it she accepted it. It was shameful for her to talk about it, doctors genuinely avoided the conversation and she felt awkward to talk about it with her family or partners, so most of them probably have no idea that they never made her cum (sorry boys). Years later she gave herself the best gift ever, the gift which keeps on giving, her first vibrator! At the age of 22 she has finally experienced her first orgasm. This little toy unlocked something in her body and although it was still not easy to do, she has been able to orgasm since then, including when having an intercourses.
Now she masturbates to release sexual tension, to release stress, to keep up her sex drive, to have a better relationship with her body, to induce sleep, to wake up, to alleviate menstrual tension or to have fun. She found out that masturbation has many more health benefits, for example indirectly prevent disease and build up resistance to infections by increasing the flow of white blood cells and rejuvenating the circulation of hormones, strengthen muscle tone in the pelvic, reducing chances of involuntary urine leakage and uterine prolapse, stimulate endorphin production, allowing better oxygen metabolism and more efficient cell functioning through the body, promote higher level of marital and sexual satisfaction, provide treatment for sexual disfunction and provide sexual outlet for people without partners and serves as a form of outercourse for safer. She wishes someone told her this before she gave up on pleasure and gave up on healthy relationship with her body.
Martyna Madej is Polish artist based in UK.
In her art work she explores topics of identity,
sexuality, human existence, body and mind.
Madej's practice involves both digital and analogue
photography, and also videography.
In her art work she explores topics of identity,
sexuality, human existence, body and mind.
Madej's practice involves both digital and analogue
photography, and also videography.